How Traumatic Birth Shapes a Woman’s Sense of Self: A Personal and Professional Journey
For over 15 years, I’ve had the privilege of walking alongside women and families. As they navigate the profound experiences of pregnancy, birth, and early parenthood. My journey began in 2002 as a newly registered nurse, full of curiosity and compassion. However, unaware of just how deeply this work would shape my own life and professional path.
Why I Chose This Research Topic
Over time, I found myself drawn to the stories that often go unheard, the quiet, sometimes painful truths shared in the counselling room. While working in Maternal Mental Health, I began to notice recurring themes in the stories women shared about their births. These were not just difficult labours or unexpected outcomes. They were deeply affecting experiences that left lasting emotional and psychological imprints. I began to wonder: How does a traumatic birth experience impact a woman’s sense of self?
This question became the heart of my Master of Counselling research at Massey University. My systematic review, How the Experience of a Traumatic Birth Affects a Woman’s Sense of Self, explores the complex interplay between trauma and identity. It’s a piece of work that has been shaped not only by academic inquiry but also by the lived experiences of women.
A Personal Journey into Birth Work
While I would not describe my own births as traumatic, they were undeniably intense marked by moments of fear, powerlessness, pride, guilt, and deep reflection. These experiences led me to become a Birthing From Within Mentor in 2017, a Birth Story Listener in 2018, and an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC). In 2019, during the uncertainty of the COVID-19 pandemic, I took the leap to become a qualified counsellor, further deepening my commitment to supporting women through the perinatal journey.
Acknowledgements
I want to acknowledge the invaluable guidance of my research supervisor, Rachael Pond, and my cultural supervisor, Pania Te Maro, whose insights and support enriched every step of this process.
Why I’m Sharing This Now
Sharing this research feels vulnerable. For a long time, I believed it needed to be published in a peer-reviewed journal to be truly “valid.” And while that process is still underway, I’ve come to realise that the real power of this work lies in the conversations it sparks. When we talk about birth trauma openly, honestly, and with compassion. We begin to create space for healing, understanding, and change.
This year, I’ve had the opportunity to present my findings to local organisations and professionals. The response has been humbling. There’s a growing curiosity, a hunger to understand more, and a recognition that birth trauma is real, impactful, and deserving of our attention.
Lets Keep This Conversation Going
If you’re interested in reading the full review please look below, or if you know someone who might benefit from support around their birth experience, I invite you to connect with me. Let’s keep the conversation going.
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Birth Trauma Aotearoa is another organisation that has great information to support you on your journey after trauma.